That’s a lie. Maybe it should say, “It’s what you do with your time that heals”. Time itself heals nothing and makes things worse. Bitterness becomes a way of life. Unforgiveness contaminates you and other relationships around you. Time helps but does not heal. It’s a momentary feeling of healing, until something reminds you of your hurt, then you explode into rage or depression.
You must acknowledge your hurt, and forgive the offender to be free. It seems sometime there are repeat offenders, usually those closest to you. Forgive them and do not judge. Remember … Do not judge others and God will not judge you, Do not condemn others and God will not condemn you, Forgive others and God will forgive you!
It’s so easy to think you have it all figured out. It’s easy to sit back and question and judge the actions of others. It’s easy to condemn people for there sins. Guess what? You have NO idea! I honestly think judgement of others is one of the greatest of sins. When you learn not to judge and condemn, it is so much easier to forgive. The only thing I have control of is the relationship between me and God. I’m not even sure I have control over my own actions at times. It is truly a good thing God is a forgiving God!
Its not time that heals, its forgiveness….Forgive and Forget!
Cindy, I read all your blogs and they are wonderful. You really are a writer!
Thanks Gail! LY
Cindy,
Might I add, forgiveness will heal you, but you also have to start with forgiving yourself. I hope I am not overstepping here, but I think you are the kind of person (like most women and mothers) that says to yourself, “Where did I go wrong?” Know that you are not to blame for someone else’s actions. You are a wonderful person and I am sure you have made your share of mistakes, but forgive yourself and know you did your best and you deserve better.
Also, forgiveness doesn’t mean you will forget. That hurt will always remain, but it is up to you to decide your reaction to it. Will you let the pain define you? Time will not heal your pain completely, there will be scars…. how will you treat those scars…. a proud reminder of what you have overcome…. an embarrassment/shame to be covered up? Bitterness, anger, etcetera, can use up all your energy and take a toll on your mental and physical health. They are valid reactions but they can be worked thru and overcome and time will allow that.
Time alone won’t heal your pain, but healing takes time! I think your journey is a very healthy way to delve into all your wounds and heal them. You will emerge from this happier and healthier, and yes, with a few battle scars to be proud of…. just …. take your time!
WOW… well said, Barbara. Love ya!